Whether you know it or not, the congregation will have expectations of church leaders’ families that will rarely be clearly communicated to you. By thinking ahead about how you want to approach this, you can help your family and your children not to feel the pressure of these expectations.

• Decide who you want to be
• Frame who you are for the congregation
• Responding to the congregation’s advice and opinions
• Assume the best
• Have a response ready
• Give them ways to help
• See behind the complaint
• Frame the congregation’s expectations for your kids
• Discipline